Tips for After the Honeymoon Stage

I don’t know about you, but when I first got married, I thought my husband could do no wrong.

Oh those annoying little habits were so cute and endearing!

…until they were not.

It didn’t take long until the fairy tale feeling ended and I found out that he was just like all the rest of us with his flaws.

And wasn’t perfect.

(Shocker, right?)

The “oh I could never be angry at you!” Turned into not caring if I went to bed angry.

Cuz I mean, hello! He made me mad – he must suffer for his crime by my silence!

Seems kinda stupid now, but it made sense at the time.

We’ve been married for a few years now and there’s a few tricks I’ve learned in those years that have HELPED my marriage.

1) Remember He’s Human

Sometimes, we forget that less emotional people actually have feelings too.

2) Don’t Bad Talk Them

I’ve seen a lot of that online lately. And I’ve seen some good men get completely demolished by a community of women. It doesn’t matter what group of women. It seems to happen in every online community of women.

What would happen if the shoe was on the other foot? How hurt would you be, if that was you being talked about? I’m not saying don’t message your best friend or something for support — I’m just saying keep it off Facebook, group chats, and wherever else you’re posting.

3) Say You’re Sorry First

It doesn’t have to even be your fault of why you, or both, are mad. Just find something to apologize for.

4) Kiss Him

This could just be a random kiss on the head, cheek, a peck… whatever way you go by. It goes a long way.

5) Let Them Know You’re Thankful for Them

Because in the end, we all want to be appreciated, right?

What do you think of my list? Should anything be added? Let us know in the comments!

Featured image taken by Emily Hoyt Bannister – March 2015
Copyright Emily Legere

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