We Are Not Okay

The power of having mom friends is essential.

I’m not talking moms in sun glasses, sitting on a park bench, pretending that their husbands all just won man of the year. Or how they are doing this amazing juice cleanse, and have already lost 7 lbs since yesterday. Spoiler alert, I know that’s actually coffee with 8 sugars in that coffee mug, Karen.

I mean talking about those women, who are honest about how much of a mess their life is, and try to CONNECT with you. You know, those who check up on you when they “sense” something is off.

Which brings me to my next point… Do you check in on people? I mean I’m a mom, so I would check in on other moms at a time like this.

And a time like what?

Oh you know, the whole isolation, can’t take your kids to a grocery store, can’t go on a date night kinda thing.

I’ve been seeing posts on Facebook of “check in on so and so. They are not okay.”

But isn’t that all of us now?

And when checking in, shouldn’t it be more than a “how are you doing?” because I don’t know about you, but I’m not doing okay. I don’t think any of us are right now. Those that are really have to be lying. Either if they believe it, or not.

It’s like when I was in early labor with Levi & having a bad reaction to the medication. Every time someone asked me how I was doing (while strapped to the bed and covered in what looked like a sunburn), I felt like giving them a “are you serious?” look, and waving my hand for them to look & see.

I was not okay.

We are not okay.

Yes, we have good days.

Yes, we have bad days.

But I know people with babies (and toddlers and kids) who are already in the most difficult time of their life are now thrown with this pandemic & all this isolation & rules & regulations.

We are not okay.

And those with chronic illnesses that are triggered by events.

We are not okay.

I had 2 very special ladies, whom I’ve never met before, keep messaging me this week to see if I was okay.

I was not okay.

But the virtual hugs, and checking in, was just what I needed in this time of not being okay.

Because even more now than ever before, we need genuine.

Genuine concern.

Genuine sympathy.

Just being genuine all around.

So don’t try to hide sugar loaded coffee or whatever other unhealthy or whatever thing you have in that travel mug of yours. We already know it’s there – because that’s what is keeping the rest of us going, too.

And that’s not a bad thing.

Originally shared here: Ramblings By Emily

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